Thursday, April 24, 2008

The Art Of Cattiness

Lately there has been discord in a group to which I kind of belong (I say "kind of" since I really do not participate in it much anymore, but my dues entitle me to do so if I wish). A year ago I surrendered my scepter and finished my year of presiding over the board of our local chapter. I could not get away fast enough!

I loved the club and the fact that when I moved to Pennsylvania it was the way I connected to other stay at home moms. It was a lifeline and I have made life long friends because of it, but recently I have become disenchanted with the club. This past year I have just sat back and watched the goings on. A storm seemed to be brewing and yesterday it arrived. Thankfully I was safe in my own little world and no where near the calamity, but those involved were not so lucky. When it rains, it pours.

It amazes me the way women treat one another. If we were men we would have our say, punch one another and go back to being friends. Women do not work that way. They gossip, they backbite, they cry and then maybe, just maybe, they get over it and make-up.

I have never been one for the gossiping and backbiting crowd. I would much rather have my say and get over it (forget the punch however, I am too wimpy for that). I know there are a lot of women like me but we tend to stay quiet and that is what is happening in the club. It's sad to see.

I have never been one to get my validity by a group of women but it is so crucial to have a circle of friends on which you can rely. I have that and I thank God daily for it, but it saddens me to know that some of the new women to the group may miss out on what I so desperately needed and received because of cattiness.

Who said being a girl was easy?


Jamie said...

It is horrible when things like this happen...and somehow it seems to happen often with women, even Christian women. I pray that those involved will reconcile and that things will calm.

TheTutor said...

I'm sorry to hear this. I am glad that you were able to extricate yourself when you saw the storm coming.

I wonder why women (generally speaking) tend to drag hurts out? Why do we insist on torturing ourselves and dishonoring God in that way? Sigh. When you find out, let me know.

Mrs. Sam said...

proverbs's not easy at all! Your so right.

Melissa said...

Been busy, so only reading this post now. Yeah, I'm pretty happy to have been removed from all of the drama as well! I couldn't agree more - men do have it easy when it comes to this kind of stuff!