Tuesday, December 4, 2007

A Different Kind of Sad

We got our first call today as foster parents. Three brothers currently in a foster home are being transferred to the adoption unit and the county wants to place them in a "legal risk home", which simply means a home that they will probably stay in permanently if their parents rights are terminated. We are considered a legal risk home.

The brothers are 6 years old, 4 years old and 19 months and have been in the system for about 6 months. These boys need a good forever home. Sadly, it cannot be ours. After talking about it and mulling over the obvious things like the fact that our van does not have enough seats for 6 children and the debatable facts, as in, "can we handle doubling the amount of children we have, all under the age of 8?", Mr. Clean and I agreed we would have to say no.

I know that this is par for the course and that the Lord will provide a home for these young boys, but it pains me to have to say, "no". I would take in all 800 children in this county that needed a home if that was realistic and not an absurd thought. My heart hurts for the things they have dealt with.

We will continue to pray for these young guys and that the right placement for our family will come along in the Lord's timing. It's still sad to have to say no, even if it is the right thing to do.

4 comments:

Jamie said...

Yeah I can't imagine that....that certainly would be hard to say no, but at least you can discern what is best for your family.

Mamma D said...

What a hard thing... will pray for them. Wouldn't it be great to be able to take all 800??

Mrs. Sam said...

Hmmmmmm...you have a big heart.
I love that you want to say yes, but so respect your ability to say no...that's so important. Making a heart decision could be dangerous...this one has to be one of those, definately with out a doubt kinds...
Good for you. We'll pray too for these wee ones...
Sam

TheTutor said...

Praying that the boys will find a wonderful and loving home (hopefully in a newly restored, God-fearing family with their parents), and that you will know your children when they are presented to you.

Blessings to you all.